Swashbuckling-free confidence

Your levels of confidence will either make your life wondrously worthwhile or witheringly worthless. It is that crucial. But confidence is not, as so many people believe, about being a wise-cracking, somersaulting, swashbuckling, Oscar award winning extrovert. In fact, some of the quietest people you come across are among the most confident. It’s actually about having true confidence. In short, it’s about being reconciled to who you really are, being at peace with yourself and being understanding of and comfortable with all the beautiful, beastly and even bizarre aspects of your character.

This is an essential life skill and state of mind about which I’ve become fascinated since I was a child because of my own experiences and the experiences of others. I know what it is like to have little to no confidence and believe that you’re not going to be able to tackle and overcome a challenge and even enjoy that challenge. I have felt the deceptively subtle, yet overwhelmingly strong fear of failure. I know the cruel and unreliable comfort that comes from finding seemingly reassuring reasons why you were not destined to do or achieve something which can invariably prompt you not to try. And all this and other aspects of a lack of confidence stop us so easily from living the life we want to...a life we have too little time to make the most of.

All this is being written about in my book which is almost completed. Watch this space!